The Noble Qur'an: Al-Ma'idah
O you who believe! Take not the Jews and the
Christians as 'Auliya' (friends, protectors, helpers etc.), they are but
'Auliya' to one another. And if any amongst you takes them as 'Auliya'
then surely he is one of them. Verily, Allah guides not those people
who are the Zalimun (polytheists and wrong-doers and unjust)."
The Noble Qur'an: Al-Mumtahinah 60:1-9,
1. O you who believe! Take not My enemies and
your enemies (i.e. disbelievers and polytheists, etc.) as friends, showing
affection towards them, while they have disbelieved in what has come to you
of the truth (i.e. Islâmic Monotheism, this Qur'ân, and Muhammad
), and have driven out the Messenger (Muhammad
) and yourselves (from your homeland) because you
believe in Allâh your Lord! If you have come forth to strive in My
Cause and to seek My Good Pleasure, (then take not these disbelievers and
polytheists, etc., as your friends). You show friendship to them in secret,
while I am All-Aware of what you conceal and what you reveal. And whosoever
of you (Muslims) does that, then indeed he has gone (far) astray, (away)
from the Straight Path.
2. Should they gain the upper hand over you,
they would behave to you as enemies, and stretch forth their hands and their
tongues against you with evil, and they desire that you should
3. Neither your relatives nor your children
will benefit you on the Day of Resurrection (against Allâh). He will
judge between you. And Allâh is the All-Seer of what you
4. Indeed there has been an excellent example
for you in Ibrâhim (Abraham) and those with him, when they said to
their people: "Verily, we are free from you and whatever you worship besides
Allâh, we have rejected you, and there has started between us and you,
hostility and hatred for ever, until you believe in Allâh Alone," except
the saying of Ibrâhim (Abraham) to his father: "Verily, I will ask
for forgiveness (from Allâh) for you, but I have no power to do anything
for you before Allâh ." Our Lord! In You (Alone) we put our trust,
and to You (Alone) we turn in repentance, and to You (Alone) is (our) final
5. "Our Lord! Make us not a trial for the
disbelievers, and forgive us, Our Lord! Verily, You, only You are the All-Mighty,
6. Certainly, there has been in them an excellent
example for you to follow, for those who look forward to (the Meeting with)
Allâh (for the reward from Him) and the Last Day. And whosoever turn
away, then verily, Allâh is Rich (Free of all wants), Worthy of all
7. Perhaps Allâh will make friendship
between you and those whom you hold as enemies. And Allâh has power
(over all things), and Allâh is Oft-Forgiving, Most
8. Allâh does not forbid you to deal
justly and kindly with those who fought not against you on account of religion
and did not drive you out of your homes. Verily, Allâh loves those
who deal with equity.
9. It is only as regards those who fought against
you on account of religion, and have driven you out of your homes, and helped
to drive you out, that Allâh forbids you to befriend them. And whosoever
will befriend them, then such are the Zâlimûn (wrong-doers those
who disobey Allâh).
13. O you who believe! Take not as friends
the people who incurred the Wrath of Allâh (i.e. the Jews). Surely,
they have been in despair to receive any good in the Hereafter, just as the
disbelievers have been in despair about those (buried) in graves (that they
will not be resurrected on the Day of Resurrection).
The Noble Qur'an: At-Tauba
O you who believe! Take not for 'Auliya'
(supporters and helpers) your fathers and your brothers if they prefer disbelief
to Belief. And whoever of you does so, then he is one of the Zalimun
The Noble Qur'an: An-Nisa
Then what is the matter with you that you are
divided into two parties about the hypocrites? Allah has cast them back (to
disbelief) because of what they have earned. Do you want to guide him whom
Allah has made to go astray? And he whom Allah has made to go astray, you
will never find for him any way (of guidance). They wish that you reject
Faith, as they have rejected (Faith), and thus that you all become equal
(like one another). So take not 'Auliya' (protectors or friends) from them,
till they emigrate in the Way of Allah (to Muhammad
). But if
they turn back (from Islam), take (hold) of them and kill them wherever you
find them, and take neither 'Auliya' (protectors or friends) nor helpers
The Noble Qur'an: An-Nisa 4:139
Those who take disbelievers for 'Auliya' (protectors
or helpers or friends) instead of believers, do they seek honour, power and
glory with them? Verily, then to Allah belongs all honour, power and
The Noble Qur'an: An-Nisa 4:144
O you who believe! Take not for 'Auliya' (protectors
or helpers or friends) disbelievers instead of believers. Do you wish to
offer Allah a manifest proof against yourselves?
The Noble Qur'an: Al-Ma'idah
Verily, your Walî (Protector or Helper) is
Allâh, His Messenger, and the believers, - those who perform As-Salât
(Iqâmat-as-Salât), and give Zakât, and they bow down (submit
themselves with obedience to Allâh in prayer).
The Noble Qur'an: At-Taubah
The believers, men and women, are Auliyâ' (helpers,
supporters, friends, protectors) of one another, they enjoin (on the people)
Al-Ma'rûf (i.e. Islâmic Monotheism and all that Islâm orders
one to do), and forbid (people) from Al-Munkar (i.e. polytheism and disbelief
of all kinds, and all that Islâm has forbidden); they perform
As-Salât (Iqâmat-as-Salât) and give the Zakât, and
obey Allâh and His Messenger. Allâh will have His Mercy on them.
Surely Allâh is All-Mighty, All-Wise.
The Noble Qur'an: Al-Anfal 8:73
And those who disbelieve are allies to one another,
(and) if you (Muslims of the whole world collectively) do not do so (i.e.
become allies, as one united block with one Khalifah - chief Muslim
ruler for the whole Muslim world to make victorious Allâh's Religion
of Islâmic Monotheism), there will be Fitnah (wars, battles,
polytheism, etc.) and oppression on earth, and a great mischief and corruption
(appearance of polytheism).
in Town to be Friends With?
The Noble Qur'an: Ash-Shura
Or have they taken (for worship) Auliyâ' (guardians,
supporters, helpers, protectors, etc.) besides Him? But Allâh, He Alone
is the Walî (Protector, etc.). And it is He Who gives life to the dead,
and He is Able to do all things.
The Noble Qur'an: An-Nisa 4:119
...And whoever takes Shaitân (Satan) as a Walî
(protector or helper) instead of Allâh, has surely suffered a manifest
Action Items for
It is one thing to
be friendly towards a non-believer, but you are commanded not to establish
alliances or friendships with a non-Muslim.
Do not reach to non-Muslim
family for help and support in times of crisis or otherwise. If they
seek the knowledge of Islam, share it. But your loyalty is to Islam
above all else; your priority is to the Islamic
You should not refer
to or think of a non-Muslim as your friend.
When you need guidance,
go to Qur'an, make Dua, seek Islamic council. Do not rely on therapeutic
counselors, guidance counselors, self-help books, non-Muslim family members,
Deal justly and kindly
with those who do not fight you on account of your religion. However,
do not rely on them for friendship/support if they are non-Muslim.
The Arabic word "Auliya"
is not interchangeable with "friend" in all uses of the word. Note
that it translates as "friends, protectors, supporters, helpers," i.e. it
is referring to a certain type of friend - the type you count on for help,
support, or protection.
You may count yourself
as a friendly (kind) person to some disbelievers, but don't ever make
the mistake of counting them as your friend.
If a Muslim friend
clearly abandons his or her salah, s/he has engaged in an act of disbelief
and you must not treat this person as an Auliya.
If a person puts on
a cowboy hat, that does not make him a cowboy or farmboy, etc. However,
if that same person wears that same hat *every day* for several years in
a row... eventually he's going to become more like a cowboy; he's certainly
going to be treated like one, and he's eventually going to think like one.
If muslims abandon their Islamic clothes (or other fundamental behaviors
of Islam) and dress like a kaffir - eventually they're going to be treated
like one, become allies with the kaffir, and even begin to THINK like the
kaffir. Kaffir thinking and Muslim thinking are extreme opposites.
The kaffir way of thinking lends itself to believing that Jesus died
on a cross to forgive all sins... why? Because it "feels" right. The
muslim way of thinking examines the evidence before coming to a
If there are no Muslims
where you live, remember that Allah, swt, is your closest Auliya and Wali.
To have anyone else but Allah, swt, his Messenger
or the believers as Auliya,
Remember... Allah, subhana watala,
sees everything we do!