Q. A younger person
is sitting - who should give salaams first?
Abu Hurairah (ra) related that the Prophet <sallahu alayhi wa salaam> said:
" A rider should greet a pedestrian; a pedestrian should greet one who is sitting; a younger person should greet an elder one; and a small party should greet a large party." (Al-Bukhaari and Muslim)
My question is, what if an older person came to a younger person while the younger person was sitting, who greets who? Does the standing greet the sitting in this case or should the younger (who is sitting) greet the older (who is standing)? So my question is, does the order of this hadith give the order of prescedance, if so, than the answer to my question would be the that the standing (in this case the elder) should greet the sitting even though the sitting is younger, correct?
Jazakh Allahu khair!
A. The person
sitting has greater rights to receive the salaams first
As salaamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi.
The person standing should first greet the person sitting, no matter the age of the two. "All things being equal", the youngest would first greet an elder.
The rights of the elders are due to piety which comes from knowledge ('ilm) and hikhmah (wisdom/understanding) which comes with experience, over time, and due to a strong sense of fear of Allah, subhana wa ta'ala. This is generally speaking why we show respect to our elders, and people are discerned in status by their level of piety.
An elderly person can take away his own rights to respect if he has a reputation for outward grievous sinning and the like. This is because we are to discern people by their piety; their worldly status (such as riches, fame, age, college or master's degree, etc.) is irrelevant when dealing between two Muslims.
The person approaching should initiate salaams for the reason insha'Allah
that the person sitting is often already preoccupied with something else
and furthermore may not notice the person approaching otherwise, and other
practical reasons. So we see that this act of "respect" is really an act
of practicality and not a matter of whose status is over another, except
when we speak of status achieved through what the people perceive to be a
pious person.
As salaamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi
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